Feeling overwhelmed or suicidal, or know someone who does?
Life can be painful, and sometimes this can lead to suicidal thoughts. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.
1 in 5 people have thought about suicide at some time in their life, according to the Samaritans - Myths about Suicide
Males are less likely to talk about their feelings
Trying to ‘pull yourself together’ or 'manning up' doesn’t always work.
If you can’t talk to your mates or your family don’t feel stuck dealing with it on your own, there are a number of places you can go to get anonymous and confidential support to help you stay in control.
Childline charity have launched this campaign video 'Things guys don't talk about' to help spread the word to seek support if you or your mates feel like they are struggling.
Visit the Childline support page
Places you can go to get confidential support
You can talk to:
- A close friend, relative or teacher
- Contact Mental Health Crisis Line: Call 111, options 2 - if you are feeling distressed and need urgent support
- Young Minds Crisis Messenger Service - Text 85258 (24/7)
- The Samaritans - Call 116 123 Or email: firstname.lastname@example.org (24/7)
- Childline - Call anytime on 0800 1111
- Hopeline (PAPYRUS) - Call 0800 068 41 41 Or text 07786 209697. (Open Mon-Fri 10am to 10pm, Weekends 2pm to 10pm.)
These helplines are free to call and confidential.
Talk to CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably).
CALM provides support to boys and men who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, and need to talk about it.
Call their helpline: 0800 58 58 58 (Open every day from 5pm – Midnight. Calls are free from most mobile networks.)
They have Webchat available on their website.
Talk to Kooth online emotional wellbeing service for 11 to 25 year old in Suffolk.
How to talk to someone you're worried about
Talking about suicide will not make it happen!
1. Start by saying "Are you OK?" - But think of how many times you've immediately said your fine when your not!
So ask this twice - like this YouTube video called 'If your mate's acting differently, Ask Twice', from 'Time to Change' charity shows:
2. Emphasise and Listen - Allow them to talk about their feelings and listen without judging them.
Talking about it lets the person know there's someone willing to hear their thoughts.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and find out why they feel this way - Reassure them that desperate feelings don't last and can be overcome. There is support out there and you can help them find it.
4. Encourage them to tell someone.
How can I tell if a friend or someone close to me is feeling suicidal?
You may hear them say these sort of things:
- “Sometimes I feel like I just want to die”.
- “I’m worthless”.
- “There’s no reason for me to live”.
- “You’re better off without me”.
- “If I died, would you miss me?”
- “I’ll try anything, I’m not afraid to die".
You may see them do these sorts of things:
- Giving away things most valuable to them.
- Drinking more or taking drugs.
- Making funeral arrangements/saying goodbyes.
- Suddenly ‘recovered’ after a period of depression.
These are some of the common signs, but sometimes there are no warning signs.
What to do if I'm worried someone is feeling suicidal or in immediate danger of taking their life.
If someone is feeling suicidal, you should:
- Take them to your local hospital's emergency department ( A & E)
- Make an urgent visit with them to see a GP
- Visit a local Samaritans branch (based in Ipswich and Bury St Edmunds)
If in immediate danger, you should:
- Call 999 - Stay with them or keep talking to them on the phone until help arrives.
Don't leave them alone. And always remember to put your own safety first.
- Look after yourself – If you have supported someone to find help you may be left with difficult feelings yourself.
Try and speak to a trusted adult so you’re not dealing with it on your own or see below for emotional wellbeing support.
What to do to stay calm:
If you or someone you know are feeling emotionally distressed, try using this ‘5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique’ to find some calm:
- Name 5 things you can see around you.
- Name 4 things you can feel (clothes, warm, cool, breeze, touch)
- Name 3 things you can hear right now.
- Name 2 things you can smell (or, 2 things you like the smell of)
- Name 1 thing that you like to taste
Focusing on your breathing can also help - gently breathe in and out from low down in your chest, nearer your stomach to slow your breathing down.
Try breathing along to the below shape which can be accessed from the GIPHY website
Where can I get emotional wellbeing advice and support?
- Call 111 Option 2 NHS Mental Health Crisis Line. 24/7 helpline for anyone of any age whose in emotional distress. (This replaces the First Response helpline)
- Emotional Wellbeing Hub – Confidential information, advice and support if you're worried about yours or a friends mental health.
- Just One Norfolk - Mental health support services for young people in Lowestoft and Waveney.
- Kooth - A free, safe and confidential online service where you can find someone to talk to when you need it.
- ChatHealth Service - To speak to a school nurse about any health issue.
- Suffolk Young People's Health Project (4YP) - To speak with a 4YP youth worker for confidential advice and support. Drop in or call them.
- YoungMinds Crisis Text Messenger Service - For urgent support and help text YM on 85258.
How can I look after my emotional wellbeing?
The following websites and Apps can help support your emotional wellbeing:
- Browse through our Health and wellbeing section - For advice and support if you're feeling stressed, anxious or depressed.
- Try our 30 Day What's Up Challenge - To explore things that can help you look after your emotional wellbeing.
The 'Five Ways to Wellbeing' is important for maintaining good emotional wellbeing, these are:
- Keep learning - Try a new skill/activity or pick something you used to enjoy doing!
- Connect - Make contact with friends, family and others.
- Take Notice - Take time out to observe what's going on around you.
- Gve - a smile or say thank you to someone or do a good deed.
- Be Active - Go for a walk/run with a friend. For more details visit www.healthysuffolk.org.uk
Become a Suffolk Life Saver:
‘Every day two people in England under the age of 24 kill themselves.’
Our aim is to get more young people talking about suicide, challenging myths and to know where to go to find help.
Spread the word by pledging your support and become a Suffolk Young Life Saver today. Visit: www.healthysuffolk.org.uk
Download our 'Feeling Overwhelmed or Suicidal? Suffolk Young Life Saver Z card'
(Email email@example.com if you would like to request an accessible version.)