It’s OK for us to have feelings that make us panic and feel hopeless or even question our purpose! But you shouldn't have to face these feelings alone! If you are struggling, don’t stay silent, talk to someone who can help you find a way forward.
You can talk to:
A close friend, relative or teacher
Young Minds Crisis Messenger Service: Text 85258 (24/7)
The Samaritans: 116 123 Or email: firstname.lastname@example.org (24/7)
Childline: 0800 1111 (Call anytime)
The Hopeline (PAPYRUS): 0800 068 41 41 Or text 07786 209697. (Open Mon-Fri 10am to 10pm, Weekends 2pm to 10pm.)
These helplines are free to call and confidential.
Males are less likely to talk about their feelings
Trying to ‘pull yourself together’ or 'manning up' doesn’t always work. If you can’t talk to your mates or your family don’t feel stuck dealing with it on your own, get anonymous and confidential support to help you stay in control.
Talk to CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably). CALM provides support to boys and men who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, and need to talk about it. Call their helpline: 0800 58 58 58 (Open every day from 5pm – Midnight. Calls are free from most mobile networks.) They have Webchat available on their website.
How to talk to someone you're worried about
Talking about suicide will not make it happen!
How do I start a conversation about it?
1. Start by saying"Are you OK?" - But think of how many times you've immediately said your fine when your not! So ask this twice - like this video:
2. Emphasise and Listen - allow them to talk about their feelings and listen without judging them. Talking about it lets the person know there's someone willing to hear their thoughts.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and find out why they feel this way - reassure them that desperate feelings don't last and can be overcome. There is support out there and you can help them find it.
4. Encourage them to tell someone.
How can I tell if a friend or someone close to me is feeling suicidal?
You may hear them say these sort of things:
“Sometimes I feel like I just want to die”.
“There’s no reason for me to live”.
“You’re better off without me”.
“If I died, would you miss me?”
“I’ll try anything, I’m not afraid to die".
You may see them do these sorts of things:
Giving away things most valuable to them.
Drinking more or taking drugs.
Making funeral arrangements/saying goodbyes.
Suddenly ‘recovered’ after a period of depression.
These are some of the common signs, but sometimes there are no warning signs.
What to do if I'm worried someone is feeling suicidal or in immediate danger of taking their life.
Look after yourself– If you have supported someone to find help you may be left with difficult feelings yourself. Try and speak to a trusted adult so you’re not dealing with it on your own or see below for emotional wellbeing support.
What to do to stay calm
If you or someone you know are feeling emotionally distressed, try using this ‘5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique’ to find some calm:
Name 5 things you can see around you.
Name 4 things you can feel (clothes, warm, cool, breeze, touch)
Name 3 things you can hear right now.
Name 2 things you can smell (or, 2 things you like the smell of)
Name 1 thing that you like to taste
Focusing on your breathing can also help - gently breathe in and out from low down in your chest, nearer your stomach to slow your breathing down.
‘Every day two people in England under the age of 24 kill themselves.’
Our aim is to get more young people talking about suicide, challenging myths and to know where to go to find help. Spread the word by pledging your support and become a Suffolk Young Life Saver today. Visit: www.healthysuffolk.org.uk